Monday, July 26, 2010
I love life and the gifts God gave to me such as my nephew Max and my 2 dogs.
They are my source of positivity. Because children are so innocent and they forgive easily, and dogs are always in a happy mood! especially if you give them food! Enjoy their pix!
Monday, April 27, 2009
Friday, February 6, 2009
Nobody likes being criticised but, unfortunately it is a fact of life.I for myself is subject to a lot of criticisms espedially in the profession that I am in. To be able to respond to criticism with nobility and detachment is an important life skill, which few people have. If we respond to criticism without careful consideration, it can easily lead to unnecessary suffering.
1. What Can I Learn from Criticism?
Most criticism is probably based, at least in part, on some truths. Criticism may appear negative. But, through criticism we have the opportunity to learn and improve from their suggestions.
2. Respond to the suggestions not the tone of the criticism.
The problem is that people may make valuable critical suggestions. However, there tone and style of criticism means that we respond not to the suggestions but remember there confrontational manner. In this respect we need to separate the criticism from the style of criticism. Even if people speak in a tone of anger, we should try to detach their emotion from the useful suggestions which lie underneath.
3. Value criticism.
The problems is that quite often, we only value praise. When people speak kind words we feel happy. When people criticise we feel miserable. However, if we only received insincere praise and false flattery, how would we ever make progress? If we wish to improve and develop we should invite constructive criticism and appreciate their suggestions.
4. Don’t take it personally.
This is often the biggest problem which occurs with regard to criticism. If I criticise my Mother’s cooking, she feels personally offended. But, it is a mistake to identify ourselves with an apple pie. Somebody may find good reasons why our cooking is bad; but, this does not mean they are criticising ourselves. When people criticise us directly, we should feel they are not criticising our real self; but, just an unillumined aspect of ourselves. When we criticise others, we are perhaps criticising their pride or jealousy; but, the jealousy is a mere passing emotion, it is not the real person.
5. Ignore False Criticism.
Sometimes we are criticised with no justification. This is a painful experience. But, potentially we can deal with it more easily than criticism which is justified. One option is to remain aloof and ignore it completely. We should feel that false criticism is as insignificant as an ant trying to harm an elephant. If we remain silent and detached the criticism is given no energy. If we feel the necessity of fighting it - in a way, we give it more importance than it deserves. By remaining silent we maintain a dignity that others will come to respect.
6. Don’t Respond Immediately
It is best to wait a little before responding. If we respond with feelings of anger or injured pride we will soon regret it. If we wait patiently it can enable us to reflect in a calmer way.
7. Smile
Smiling, even a false smile, can helps us to relax more. It creates a more positive vibration and smoothes the situation. It will definitely help psychologically. Smiling will motivate the other person to moderate their approach.
But amidst all the criticisms, I am just thankful for my family and friends who still loved me whoever I am at the moment,
and more importantly, the criticism that you should really take is the one that your heart makes, you are the only one who really know who you are.People may say whatever they want but at the end of day, just be thankful because you have been noticed, Confucious once said "It's the beautiful bird that gets caged"....
-Prince Tami
special credits to http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/7-effective-ways-to-deal-with-criticism.html
Friday, January 30, 2009
yummy steak
pampanga buffetSunday, January 25, 2009
topher, toffee, kris
hey it's me! in this scene our Manager played by Toffee Calma is angry at us hence the sad face
kristoffer king
mama san toffee
toffee and topher
Thursday, January 8, 2009
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
www.dansantos.multiply.com and miong21.blogspot.com
being chosen to be put on headers of different websites could be quite flattering and I really appreciate that these people put me there to represent what they find beautiful...Although I still believe that what makes up a big percentage of beauty and a good life is the attitude.
Who want to live in happiness? everybody says yes , but the happiness is not in the future or in the good meories in the past, it is in the moment, we live these moments thinking about a past will never return back or a future which is very foggy and full of suspicions!why we don't just live the moment to the bone with out giving a look at these two things,( I know it is impossible) but let us live 50% of our time in the present and forget about every other time.it is like these banners in the sky which tells you as advertisements" live the moment" or " Just Do It" , I want to change them to " Just Live The Moment", If you live the very moment you will be relaxed full of the overwhelming feeling of the moment, enjoying every single breathe of it , taking full advantage of the Great attitude you have.wow that's amazing!
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Time to take Care of Myself
Its been quite a while since I last pampered myself,though sometimes pampering ourselves can be quite stressful on our pockets, good thing that I have good friends and sponsors like Artista Salon by nanay Gio to help me look and feel good.they treat me well there, yesterday i had a foot spa, manicure pedicure, a haircut and hair treatment...I felt good after the treatments, especially after the pedicure..the manicurist did well in getting rid of the dirt and ingrown embedded on my nails.although im not really a fan of "colorless nail polish" hehehe.Thank you nanay Gio.
check out their website at http://www.artistasalon.com.ph/
Monday, December 8, 2008
It’s clear to me from the many people I talk to that there is a great misunderstanding about style. Style is not a price. It is not an age. It is not a size. And it can be learned.
Style is one part self-knowledge and one part self-confidence. In other words, it’s an attitude. It is a life-affirming expression of your character and spirit, a conviction that you are worth knowing, worth looking at and can present yourself well. It is knowing your strengths and weaknesses so that you can accentuate your strengths, not hide real or imagined shortcomings. Feeling good about yourself is a sine qua non of looking good.
There is one more element of style, and that is clothes, but style should never be confused with fashion. Fashion is synonymous with clothes, but style is merely expressed through clothes. Fashion is IN the clothes. Style is IN the wearer.
Style is nothing if not a celebration of individuality, of individual variability. It glorifies the fact that we are all different. It exposes as preposterous the notion that there is an ideal body, an ideal woman or man—that there is only one perfect way to look, that any one way is perfect for all men. Style always delights because it is a revelation that the possibilities for originality are limitless.
Style rejects ideals. It goes its own way. In fact, style is nothing if not a triumph of the fresh and unusual.
Style is democratic. It assumes that every woman/man has the potential to create an identity that’s unique, and to express it through how she carries herself, how she grooms herself, what she puts on.
Yet style is aristocratic. It sets apart those who have it from those whose dress is merely functional, utilitarian. It announces to the world that the wearer has a sense of herself and has assumed command of herself.
Style is intelligent, because it requires self-knowledge. Style hugs the self closely, even though it never represents the whole self at one time. The self is too complex to be represented by any one way of dressing.
Style is optimistic. It is optimism made visible. Style presumes that you are a person of interest, that the world is a place of interest, that life is worth making the effort for.
There is no style without taking risk, without exploring new sides of the self, without saving what works and discarding the errors. Style, then, is a springboard for personal growth.
There are those who criticize style for its trendiness and materialistic consumption. But they are confusing style with fashion. Fashion is preoccupied with change merely for change’s sake, to stoke consumer purchases.
Style is in fact a way of avoiding the clutter of stuff. It is a way of sorting through the crowded marketplaces, a way of selecting, making choices influenced not so much by pressures such as advertising but by internal considerations. This kind of style no more requires change from season to season that does your character. But neither is it completely static. Ideally it should evolve over time, as character does.
Style is really self-knowledge applied selectively—selectivity is its essence—to the material world.
